shovels and rakes and implements of destruction

If my daughter or son and I can continue to be that close when they're older, i'll consider myself the best parent in the world :P You can't do everything right and you can't make your children's lives perfect. Will we try? of course. Will we consider ourselves a failure if we don't? Every fricking time something makes my babies cry or sad or just generally unhappy. Does it make me a bad parent? No. It makes me a parent in the real world :P